So does the maid of honor have special responsibilities or does she just have a fancy title recognizing how close she and the bride are? The answer is yes, she does have specific duties that differentiate between her and the bridesmaid’s duties.
Maid of Honor definition and duties: Along with the Maid of Honor being in charge of planning the bridal shower and bachelorette party, she usually reserves the title of “best friend,” whether a family member or not. The MOH is there to provide emotional support, lead the other bridesmaids in getting different tasks done, and plan the important events that lead up to the wedding day!
Pre-Wedding Expectations and Responsibilities
- Go wedding dress shopping with the bride
- Plan the bridal shower
- Plan the bachelorette party
- Provide emotional support
- Be the point of contact
- Create a wedding day survival kit
- Help choose wedding decor
Day-of Wedding Expectations and Responsibilities
- Get ready with the bridal party
- Take pictures with the bride
- Communicate with the wedding planner and vendors
- Give a speech
- Keep an eye on unruly guests
- Keep the ring safe until “I do”
- Have fun and dance the night away
So now let’s break down each section so you can get a good look at exactly what is expected of the MOH!
Pre-Wedding Expectations and Responsibilities
The journey leading up to the wedding day is an exciting one, with lots of fun celebrations, vendor consultations, and SHOPPING. Here are the duties of the MOH leading up to the big special day!
Go Wedding Dress Shopping With the Bride
First up on the agenda is wedding dress shopping! Fun right?
The Maid of Honor along with a few of the bride’s closest friends or family get to help the bride pick the perfect wedding dress that will make her feel like a million bucks.
The MOH should be honest and supportive and help her bride out by keeping any negative nancies from killing the fun!
Plan the Bridal Shower
Planning the bridal shower is part of the whole bridal party’s to-do list, but the manager, if you will, of the event is the MOH. The MOH gets to head up the whole bridal shower event and relay information and delegate responsibilities to the other bridesmaids so that things get done! Oftentimes the bride’s mother and grandmother will like to help plan and bring together this event, so don’t be afraid to make them a part of the planning process!
Plan the Bachelorette Party
Similar to the bridal shower, the bachelorette party falls to the MOH to head up. Of course, everyone gets to help out, but to ensure that the bride gets exactly what she wants, the MOH primarily comes up with the plan!
Provide Emotional Support When Things Get Stressful
This one is one of the most important duties on the list and is part of the wedding day duties as well. Planning a wedding gets stressful at times and along with all the change that comes with marriage, your bride will need occasional reassurance!
Be there for her when she gets stressed, upset, and worried. Whether it’s about wedding decorations, who to invite or not to invite, venue, etc. be there to let her know she’s doing great and she isn’t alone in planning things!
Be the Point of Contact
The MOH is the go-between person, if the bride doesn’t have time or can’t relay some important information to the rest of the bridesmaids or family members this falls to the MOH to do. If the wedding party has questions, the MOH should be there to help answer questions and get things done so the bride doesn’t have to worry about it.
Create a Wedding Day Survival Kit
A wedding day survival kit is essential for your wedding day, the MOH should put together a small bag with just-in-case items that will help in emergency situations!
Follow the link above to learn which items you should add to your wedding day survival kit!
Help Choose Wedding Decor
The bride most likely knows what kind of decor she wants, but sometimes brides need help bringing the vision together. Be there to either help your bride get a vision for the decor or to bring her vision about! The MOH should always be honest and supportive so that the bride feels confident and supported in her choices
Day-Of Expectations and Responsibilities
All the planning and events have led to the big day, and it’s truly exciting! The main priority of the MOH on the wedding day is to have fun celebrating the bride, so here are a couple of ways that this happens.
Get Ready With the Bridal Party
First up on the wedding day agenda is getting ready with the bride and bridesmaids! This is one of the most fun parts of the day, so kick back, eat some snacks and turn the music up while you and the gals get beautified.
Take Pictures With the Bride
As a member of the bridal party, the MOH will be in plenty of photos with the whole wedding party as well as just the bride. So get ready to pose for some special photos!
Communicate with Wedding the Planner and Vendors
On the day of the wedding, the goal is to keep the bride as stress-free as possible, and that’s where the MOH comes in. Rather than the planner or vendors asking the bride questions, these questions should be intercepted by the MOH and handled so the bride can enjoy her special day!
Give a Speech
Once the reception is underway and the wedding guests are enjoying a delicious meal, the MOH and Best Man will stand up and give a speech. This is a beautiful part of the wedding where the bride and groom’s closest friends get to share special memories with the wedding guests.
So go all out and do be afraid to shed some tears!
Keep an Eye On Unruly Guests
Weddings sometimes require invitations to be extended to family and friends who can be troublemakers, so the MOH should try her best to keep the bride from being concerned with guests who cause trouble.
Keep the Wedding Ring Safe Until “I Do”
The MOH holds on to the wedding ring and keeps it safe until the ring bearer walks them down the aisle!
Have Fun and Dance the Night Away
With all the planning and efforts to keep the bride stress free, the biggest duty of the MOH is to have fun and celebrate the marriage of her best friend! So dance and laugh the night away and make the bride feel truly special!